Truthful Tuesday — I Forgive Me!

Melanie, of Sparks from a Combustible Mind, is still filling in for Frank, aka PCGuy, who is taking a temporary (?) hiatus from his Truthful Tuesday prompt. This week Melanie asks…

How easily are you able to forgive yourself?

I believe that we are each our own worst critic; that we are much more harsh on ourselves than others are on us. Except for those with Narcissistic Personality Disorders, in which those so afflicted have an inflated sense of self-importance. Such as Donald Trump, but I digress.

While I can be, and often am, hypercritical of myself — my thoughts, my words, my deeds, my desires — I don’t believe I’ve ever deliberately done anything so heinous or inappropriate that it would be unforgivable. Therefore, since my “sins” are, in the grand scheme of things, relatively minor offenses, I’m willing to give myself the benefit of the doubt and, as they say, forgive me my trespasses.

3 thoughts on “Truthful Tuesday — I Forgive Me!

  1. Marleen July 19, 2022 / 11:33 am

    A gardener once came to evaluate the front gardens where I live to consider what flowers and plants might be installed. I guess her morality was more important to her than the job. She ask me along with my ex husband if we were living in sin. My ex-husband just blanked it out, as he is “good” at doing… doesn’t even know it happened. I simply chuckled and didn’t answer. She didn’t press. I told this story to one of my sons a while back. He was surprised anyone would be so inappropriate or nosey. A few months later, he asked me tongue-in-cheek if I was ever afraid I would go to hell for living in sin. I said, never. It’s true (I don’t believe I am living in sin while I do see that woman as having lived in “sin” while feeling pious… I didn’t say any of that to him). I went on to inform him I feel guilty about things that seem smaller; things I could have done better. These are pangs because I wish to do well, be a perfect mother, et cetera. He told me that he feels bad for a minute or day or so and moves on. Makes sense. He’s a good kid.

    I thought it was interesting when the daughter in the pair Donald Trump targeted as allegedly tampering with votes (according only him and Giuliani and their lemmings) shared that she thought all the terrible things happening to her mother especially but also to herself because of crazy Republicans were her fault because she had always wanted to do good and have a meaningful job. Doing the job had exposed her name and her mother’s name to attacks and threats and false shame. I said, “women do that.” Similarly, when a relationship goes bad through no fault of their own and with no warning to clue them in (except that the partner is an actual human with all the risk that involves despite all appearances), they often say of themselves, “I was stupid.” That feeling can get worse if forgiveness is extended out beyond themselves. People say it to them in a variety of ways, too, usually without saying the word. (It’s not that there’s no such thing as being stupid or worse, but it is also possible to be as innocent as Shaye.)

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