For today’s Share Your World challenge, Melanie is asking us to dig into the deepest and darkest regions of our lives. So let’s go digging.
What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex? Or to put it another way “Can men and women ever be platonic friends? Doesn’t sex always get in the way?”
I consider my wife to be my best friend, and she and I are of the opposite sex, so I think it’s great.
But that’s not what you’re getting at, is it Melanie? To be honest, I think there are often, if not always, sexual undertones in any close relationship between a man and a woman — and even, depending upon sexual orientation, between a man and a man or a woman and a woman. Sometimes the parties to the relationship can control those sexual urges in order to not jeopardize the friendship or to put a strain on the relationship. But occasionally the sexual tension becomes overwhelming and, well, sex happens. When it does, does it get in the way of the friendship? That depends upon the couple, but it definitely changes the dynamics of the relationship.
What is the greatest struggle you’ve overcome?
I think it’s been my lifelong battle with “benign paroxysmal positional vertigo” (BPPV). If I put my head in certain positions, like looking up toward the ceiling, laying flat on my back in the supine position, and lying down or sleeping on my left side, it triggers what, at times, can be severe dizziness. So the way I manage this malady is to do my best to avoid putting my head in any position that triggers my vertigo.
What is the darkest thought you’ve ever had? What about the darkest thing you’ve done that you’ve never told anybody about?
Darkest thought: I want, in the interest of preserving the American democracy, to assassinate the current president, the current senate majority leader, and the current attorney general. I sure hope the NSA doesn’t read your blog, Melanie, or my next post may be from a federal prison.
And to the good folks at the NSA, who I respect very much for the fine job you’re doing to protect our country and our citizens, let me point out that the question is about dark thoughts, not dark actions or deeds. Do you feel me?
And one ‘fun’ one because I realize those others were pretty deep.
What is your least favorite food?
Brussels sprouts. And fruit cake.