Sadje’s Sunday Poser — How, What, Who

There’s an old saying that goes, “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” That saying has been attributed to Mae West, an American stage and film actress, playwright, screenwriter, singer, and sex symbol. But who said it, in my opinion, is not as important as what was said.

That saying may be applicable for verbal interactions, where you’re communicating face-to-face or orally. But as bloggers, we depend upon the written word. That said, often how you “say” it helps communicate what you have to say. You can use humor to enhance your message. You can also be sure to use proper grammar, punctuation, and usage to ensure that your readers aren’t distracted, causing your words to lose, if not their meaning, at least their impact. So, both what and how you say (write) it, are important.

Now Sadje has added a new dimension to this familiar question by throwing in who to the what and how. She asks…

When you use a quote, what’s more important: who said it or what they said?

Again, in the context of blogging, I usually search for interesting, relatable, and sometimes controversial quotes to use for my responses to Linda G. Hill’s One-Liner Wednesday prompts. Some of the quotes I use are from “anonymous,” in which case, “who” I’m quoting is unknown. But my objective is to focus on what the person I’m quoting said. I don’t really care who I’m quoting as long as what words I’m quoting resonate.

So, to answer Sadje’s Sunday Poser question, when it comes to choosing quotes for my blog, more often than not, it’s what they said that is more important that who said it.

Sadje’s Sunday Poser — Literally or Figuratively

When I first saw Sadje’s Sunday Poser, I took the question quite literally, where “how far” was referring to distance.

After graduating from college and returning from active duty in the army, I was living in the Maryland suburbs of Washington, DC and working for a company in the city. Many of the employees of the company also lived in the suburbs. Some, like me, in Maryland, and others in the Northern Virginia suburbs.

I was single back then and a lot of cute young girls worked at this company. And for some reason, a number of them seemed to be attracted to me. However, working in DC and living in Maryland, I made the conscious decision to not get involved with any of those nubile young ladies who lived in Northern Virginia. All other things being equal, I labeled them to be “geographically undesirable.” Hence, traveling across the Potomac River into Northern Virginia was, in terms of love, a bridge too far.

But then I reread Sadje’s question and realized that she might be posing that question figuratively, as in is there anything I wouldn’t do for a loved one. To that question, I will quote a line from Meat Loaf’s song:

I would do anything for love
But I won't do that
No I won't do that

Sadje’s Sunday Poser — Writing

For her Sunday Poser this week, Sadje wants to know…

What do you like most about your own writing?

At the risk of sounding full of myself, I love everything about my writing. I enjoy writing whatever comes to mind, whether it’s something I read about, saw, heard, did, or imagined. I enjoy responding to prompts, — word, photo, music, whatever. I enjoy exercising my brain, tapping into my creativity, and flexing my imagination.

In my writing I can be anyone I want to be. Any age, any gender. I can be in or from anywhere. I can be an old fart, a young man, a beautiful woman, a detective, a lawyer, a daredevil, a butcher, a baker, or a candlestick maker.

I believe writing helps me keep my mind sharp and it keeps me occupied and challenged in my retirement. And I also believe I’m a reasonably good writer. Well, prose anyway. My feeble attempts at poetry suck.

And I am thankful that there is a community of others who love to write as much as I do and who are happy to share that love as much as I do.

Sadje’s Sunday Poser — Collector

For her Sunday Poser this week, Sadje asks…

Do you collect or hoard things?

In my youth I used to collect baseball cards and comic books. But after my father tossed out both of my collections while I was away at college, I stopped collecting anything.

Do you collect or hoard things so that you don’t run out of them? And if you do and later on find that you don’t need them after all, what do you do with them?

Not really. My rule of thumb for consumables is that once I open the last item of a particular product, I will buy or order at least one to replace it. Most of the time, though, I’ll order two or three at a time so I don’t have to replenish my supply of the item too frequently. Typically, I always use whatever it is I bought.

Sadje’s Sunday Poser — Just Stop

For her Sunday Poser this week, Sadje asks…

What are some of the things that people do that make you feel uncomfortable?

As I’ve grown older, I’ve become less of a “people” person than I was in my younger days. I have less patience to suffer fools and it seems, these days, that there are more fools than ever before. And I wish they’d just stop.

So, in no particular order, here are some of the things that people do that make me feel uncomfortable:

Refuse to wear face masks.

Refuse to get vaccinated.

Believe that the insurrectionist from Jan. 6 were nothing more than rambunctious tourists or, worse, were patriots.

Still believe, after everything we’ve learned, that Trump’s Big Lie about the 2020 American presidential election stolen and that Joe Biden is not the legitimate POTUS, is valid.

Watch no other news than Fox “News.”

Proselytize about their religion.

Refuse to pick up their dog’s poop.

Think they have all the right answers but never bother asking the right questions.

Think only about themselves.

Talk but won’t listen.


I could go on, but I think you get my drift. Suffice it to say that I am annoyed by and feel uncomfortable around, well, most people.