Rory’s Fantastic Four

E798C977-7442-40DF-95FC-C60A52FCE660So Rory, A Guy Called Bloke, has this thing he does each week called the Friday Four, and it’s fantastic. Okay, maybe calling it “fantastic” is a bit of an exaggeration. Let’s just use a different f-word: “fun.”

So here we go again.

1] If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?

I’m not someone who is typically moody. I live my life on a pretty even keel. But, on those occasions when I’m not a happy camper, I generally prefer some quality alone time until my mood brightens up.

2] What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?

I’m really a what you see (or read) is what you get kinda guy. There are no hidden agendas and not much to read between the lines. So there’s probably not much about me that people misunderstand.

3] What do you think about when you’re by yourself?

I’m rarely by myself (except when I’m in a bad mood), so, in order to be “present,” I think about what I’m doing and who I’m with.

4] What are three things you value most about a person?

Truth, Justice, and the American Way.3726F370-8328-4B5C-849E-E5BEF8D1B818

Bonus Series 1 Question:

If heaven is real and you died tomorrow, would you get in?

I’m an atheist, so I don’t believe that heaven is real. And if I were to die tomorrow, that would be the end of everything. Yes, I am a little bit solipsistic, as I explained here.

More No Way/So Way

A63EA3F6-FBBF-4FA0-8358-3ABCDBF75EF2Rory, A Guy Called Bloke, has come up with yet another “Oh So Way/Oh No Way” post. It’s essentially a yes or no exercise where he makes a bunch of statements to which you respond with either “oh so way,” meaning “yeah, I’ve done that,” or “oh no way,” meaning “uh uh, not on a bet have I ever done that.”

So hear goes:

I have eaten snails — Oh so way! Yummy!

Received a speeding ticket — Oh so way, so way, and so way. I have a heavy foot.

Fallen asleep during an important meeting — Oh no way, but I did fall asleep in classes in college.

Sunbathed nude — Oh so way.

Taken part in a talent show. — Oh so way.

Worn Crocs — Oh no fucking way!

Screamed at a scary scene in a movie showhouse — Oh no way, but I did jump outta my seat a few times.

Been involved in a hit and run — Oh no way.

Been locked outside when naked — I’ve been outside and naked, but oh no way I was locked outside.

Been approached by a hooker — Oh so way. But I didn’t hook up.

Re–gifted a gift to someone else that I was gifted — Oh no way. At least not that I know of.

Fallen over something in the street while texting — Sadly, oh so way.

Fallen asleep on the toilet — Oh no way, but I did drop my iPhone in the toilet once.

Had sex in a tent — Oh so way.

Properly kissed someone of the same sex — Oh no way. I assume a fatherly kiss to one’s son is not what you’re referring to.

Surfed — Does body surfing count? If so, then oh so way.

Had sex on the first date — Oh so way. Mmm.

Holidayed in a nudist camp — Does going to a nude beach count? If yes, then oh so way.

Rory’s Provocative Questions

D90AEE63-91C1-4760-822F-66DD11EA0AC5It looks like I’m not the only one who periodically asks provocative questions. Rory, A Guy Called Bloke, has also posed some provocative questions of his own, but unlike mine, his questions offer some multiple choice answers.

Rory’s questions and my answers:

Is Social Media Ruining Genuine Friendship & Encouraging More Loneliness?

  • Yes, It’s Damaging Us
  • No, It’s another format
  • No Opinion
  • Actually, I think…

Yes and no. Just like the advent of the internet, social media does some good and some harm depending upon who’s using it, how they’re using it, and why they’re using it. Sure, some social media sites can have a negative impact on some folks, while for others, they can be very reinforcing. And while social media may be altering the way people interact with one another, I don’t believe that, overall, it is ruining genuine friendships or encouraging greater loneliness. That hasn’t been my experience, anyway. But I don’t have much of a social media presence, other than on WordPress, and I’m an old geezer, so what do I know?

Why Do People Bully Others?

  • Insecurity
  • Avoid Own Problems
  • Look Cool
  • For Fun

 Because some people are assholes.

Which Stigma/Taboo Is Worse?

  • Mental Health
  • Self Harm
  • Suicidality
  • Bullying

I suppose suicide is the most drastic harmful action anyone can take, since there’s no going back once done. I don’t know, in terms of stigmas or taboos, which of the others is worse. Bullying is outwardly directed, so the bully hurts others, whereas self-harm is inwardly directed. And mental health, per se, is neither a stigma nor a taboo. It’s something everyone should strive to maintain or achieve.

Do You NEED People In Your Life? How Many People Do You Meet With & Talk

  • 1-3 per Day
  • 4-9 Per Day
  • 10-17 Per Day
  • 18+ Per Day

I think we all need people. No man — or woman — is an island. That said, the number of people one interacts with depends upon a person’s circumstances and situation. For example, I’m retired, so I no longer interact daily with a whole host of work associates. I have my wife and kids and a very small circle of friends with whom I regularly interact in the real world. And here on WordPress, I interact daily through my blog and their blogs with several dozen “regulars,” way more than in the real world.

Take a Better Look

1FA321F9-1681-4FBB-A1DD-8C1B762B4515A blogger, Efisoul63, came up with a series of “getting to know you better” questions that I thought were kind of interesting. And knowing how eager all of you want to know Fandango better, I decided to post my answers.

What keeps you up at night?


What’s the most surprising self-realization you’ve had?

I’m not extraordinary.

What’s the most illegal thing you’ve done?

Smoked pot before it was legalized.

What lie do you tell most often?

I’m extraordinary.

What do you regret not doing?

Not having sex with Carol N. in the 11th grade when she offered.

What gives your life meaning?

The dictionary.

What do you most often look down on people for? What do you think other people look down on you for?

For voting for and continuing to support Donald Trump. For not voting for and not supporting Donald Trump. 

What bridges do you not regret burning?

What? Do you think I’m a pyromaniac? I’ve never burned a bridge in my entire life.

What are you most insecure about?

Taking things too literally.

How do you get in the way of your own success?

Ignorance and apathy. But just between you and me, I don’t know and I don’t care.

What’s one thing you did that you really wish you could go back and undo?

Never sitting down with my parents and talking to them about their lives when they were growing up and how they met each other.

What are you afraid people see when they look at you?

That I look as old as I am.

Why I Don’t Answer My Own Questions

Ursula, at An Upturned Soul, asked me a question in a post that included her response to my weekly prompt, Fandango’s Provocative Question. This week’s question was, “does size matter?” She asked, “Do you believe that size matters, Fandango? Please explain your response.”

And Melanie at Sparks From a Combustible Mind, commented, “I don’t see YOUR thoughts on this Mr. Fandango. What say YOU???”

Okay, those are fair criticisms. Let me start off by saying that I view my role in posting these questions as soliciting the thoughts of others on the topic of the question. I certainly have my own opinions, but I don’t think it’s my place, as the person posing the questions, to offer up my own answers. My interest is learning what the blogging community thinks, not what I think.

Second, I don’t want to influence how others might respond to the question by answering it myself. I know that readers here on WordPress have their own reasoned opinions on provocative matters, but, given that Donald Trump is the POTUS, it’s clear to me that many Americans (around 40%, anyway) are susceptible to the wild rantings of a demented moron and are apparently easily swayed by the expressed opinions of others.

Third, as I read the responses that people post in their own blogs or in the comments on my post, most have already expressed opinions that I share as well, so why pile on with an answer to the question that someone else has already posted?

And one last comment. I am concerned that when I ask a question like “Do you believe that size matters?” some might simply respond with either “yes” or “no.” And so I add “Please explain your response” or “Please elaborate.”

I hope that sufficiently answers the question of why I don’t answer my own FPQ questions.

For what it’s worth, my answer to the question of whether size matters would be that it depends upon the context. In some cases, size doesn’t matter at all, whereas in other cases, it matters a lot.