Valentine’s Day 2023

Every Valentine’s Day since I stated this blog, I have republished this angry Valentine’s Day rant. But I’m not going to do it this year.

This year is different for me. Since I came home from rehab after having had hip replacement surgery last month, my wife has served as my primary caregiver. She has been there for me every step of the way as I’m learning how to walk again. She is my cheerleader when I’m feeling depressed. She is my coach, encouraging me to do my physical therapy exercises when all I want to do is sit down and rest.

She prepares and serves me my meals. She makes sure I remember to take my meds. She helps me into the car and drives me to medical appointments and will drive me to physical therapy sessions once they transition from at-home to outpatient sometime in March. She has taken over chores I used to do but now cannot, including walking our dog for her last walk of the night. She has put up with my whining and feeling sorry for myself. She assists me in anyway she can and has done so without complaint.

So this Valentine’s Day, I went on to the evil Hallmark website and ordered a romantic Hallmark Valentine’s Day card to be delivered today. I went on and arranged to have her favorite flowering plant, a calla lily, delivered today, along with a schmaltzy note telling her how much I love her.

After all these years of ranting about what a stupid, made up holiday Valentine’s Day is, I have finally succumbed. I want my wife to know that I don’t take for granted the sacrifices she’s now making for me for my stupidly climbing up a ladder between downpours to clean out the gutters one month ago today and busting my left hip and right shoulder. It wasn’t her fault but she’s bearing the brunt of the repercussions and I couldn’t let this Valentine’s Day go by without telling her how much that means to me. How much she means to me.

26 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day 2023

  1. KK February 14, 2023 / 3:43 am

    Happy Valentine’s Day, 2023🎉

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    • Fandango February 14, 2023 / 8:29 am

      Thanks. Happy Valentine’s Day to you, as well.

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  2. Esoterica February 14, 2023 / 4:50 am

    I share your sentiments. Ten years in, my partner and I have never celebrated what he called “female love reassurance and gift exchange day.” However, under similar circumstances, I suspect we would. It’s a lovely opportunity to show your wife that you care. You can bring back the angry Valentine’s Day rant next year. 😊

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  3. sweeterthannothing February 14, 2023 / 5:10 am

    All holidays are stupid and made up, no reason not to celebrate them! Happy Valentine’s Day!

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  4. Gr8BigFun February 14, 2023 / 6:44 am

    You’ve gone all soft Fandango. But in a way Tom Purcell is right. You are not really celebrating Valentine’s Day, you are as Tom put it, making up for something foolish and it just happened to be on Valentine’s day, two birds with one stone! Of course, I say it tongue-in-cheek. It sounds like you are lucky, she has been your rock and is playing a big part in your recovery. Happy Valentines Day.

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    • Fandango February 14, 2023 / 2:13 pm

      Yeah, I’m a softy at heart. And yes, I’m lucky to have a partner like my wife. Happy Valentine’s Day to you, too, Greg.


  5. Sanjeet Patel February 14, 2023 / 7:06 am

    This is a lovely post, Fandango. Happy Valentine’s Day😊

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  6. Irene February 14, 2023 / 7:47 am

    Those are heart-warming gestures, from and to your wife, any day of the year, but even if just for this year, Happy Valentine’s Day!

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    • Fandango February 14, 2023 / 5:05 pm

      Thank you, Irene. Happy Valentine’s Day to you, too.

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  7. brittabenson February 14, 2023 / 10:15 am

    Perfect Valentine’s Day reading. What a beautiful post full of appreciation and love for your wife! She definitely deserves the flowers!

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  8. JT Twissel February 14, 2023 / 1:02 pm

    Lovely post ! I went to the KC Art Institute years ago – their primary sponsor was then Hallmark. That company has kept many an artist from starving!

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    • Marleen February 14, 2023 / 1:27 pm

      Great point that I didn’t know! Thank you

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  9. rugby843 February 14, 2023 / 1:06 pm

    Awwwwww…good for you!👍🏻💓

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  10. Marleen February 14, 2023 / 1:24 pm


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  11. leigha66 February 14, 2023 / 11:15 pm

    She is doing a great and difficult thing, caregiving is hard. You were sweet to let her know how much it means to you.

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