Fandango’s Flashback Friday — October 14th

Wouldn’t you like to expose your newer readers to some of your earlier posts that they might never have seen? Or remind your long term followers of posts that they might not remember? Each Friday I will publish a post I wrote on this exact date in a previous year.

How about you? Why don’t you reach back into your own archives and highlight a post that you wrote on this very date in a previous year? You can repost your Friday Flashback post on your blog and pingback to this post. Or you can just write a comment below with a link to the post you selected.

If you’ve been blogging for less than a year, go ahead and choose a post that you previously published on this day (the 14th) of any month within the past year and link to that post in a comment.


This was originally posted on October 14, 2014 on my old blog.

Small Talk

Some people are really good at small talk. I am not one of those people.

Small talk, according to Wikipedia, is “an informal type of discourse that does not cover any functional topics of conversation or any transactions that need to be addressed.” So it’s basically bullshit. It’s filler with no substance to it, sort of like popcorn, only less salty.

Wikipedia goes on to say that small talk “serves many functions in helping to define the relationships between friends, work colleagues, and new acquaintances. In particular, it helps new acquaintances to explore and categorize each other’s social position.”

Seriously? Small talk helps define relationships and is used to categorize social positions? Crap. That doesn’t bode well for someone like me who is really bad at small talk.

My small talk conversations typically go something like this:

Other person: Hey buddy, how was your weekend?
Me: Fine, thanks.
Other person: Great. You know, my wife, the kids, and I piled into the car and headed on up to Napa this weekend and while we were there….
Me: Shut up, I don’t give a shit.

Well, I suppose that does define the relationship (none) and does categorize my social position (disconnected and disinterested).

It’s not that I’m anti-social. I enjoy being social with people I know. And I enjoy engaging in lively conversations and/or debates on topics of substance with people I respect. But these hi-how-are-you-I’m-fine-thanks-how-are-you-what-do-you-think-of-this-weather-we’re-having-sure-could-use-some-rain types of conversations bore the hell out of me.

One part of my job that I hate is when I have to participate in a group dinner with clients or prospects. The only thing in we have common is work-related, and few people want to talk about work at dinner. So small talk is pretty much all there is.

Coupled with my disdain for small talk is the fact that I am hearing challenged in crowded restaurants where there is a lot of ambient noise. So not only am I bored, I have difficulty hearing what people are saying. I end up sitting there with a stupid smile on my face, nodding my head occasionally, and pretending that I hear what people are talking about while feigning interest. And I pray that no one asks me a direct question.

I’m equally as bad at parties where I don’t know a lot of people. Parties are often loud affairs, with music blaring and a cacophony of voices in the background. I’ve found that the best method for minimizing small talk at parties is to lie.

Other person: Hello, my name is Jack. Nice to meet you. I’m an accountant over at Gotcher Mooney & Moore. This is my wife, Penelope.
Me: Nice to meet you as well (lie).
Other person: So what do you do for a living?
Me: I can’t talk about it. It’s classified; top-secret (lie). If I told you I’d have to kill you (truth).
Other person (looking around the room nervously): Say Penelope, isn’t that your cousin Matilda over there?

Jack grabs Penelope’s hand and departs quickly. I get another drink, look at my watch, and try to decide how much longer I need to remain at this torturous affair.

One of the reasons I enjoy blogging is because I don’t need to engage in small talk.

So, how’s the weather in your part of the world?

20 thoughts on “Fandango’s Flashback Friday — October 14th

  1. newepicauthor October 14, 2022 / 3:25 am

    This is how my small talk goes:
    Other person: Hey buddy, how was your weekend?
    Me: Fuck off. Why do you need to know? Are you writing a book about me?

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  2. Nope, Not Pam October 14, 2022 / 3:25 am

    It’s bucketing down, thanks for asking. Heard any good jokes lately?

    Liked by 1 person

      • Nope, Not Pam October 14, 2022 / 3:48 am

        That made me laugh 😂

        Liked by 1 person

        • donmatthewspoetry October 14, 2022 / 4:20 am

          Tell you what. It took a long time finding one that was ‘clever’ and not ‘pathetic’ if you follow……

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  3. The Sicilian Storyteller October 14, 2022 / 6:22 am

    Interesting post. I don’t really mind small talk; I’ve made a lot of friends chatting with the woman next to me at the nail salon or the other grandparents I meet at the park. It doesn’t alway have to be bullshit.

    In response to your Flashback Friday request, here’s something I wrote back in 2018. I still feel the same way today as I did back then. https://theelephantstrunk.org/2018/10/14/the-big-squeeze/

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  6. Marleen October 14, 2022 / 2:08 pm

    It kind of annoys or offends me when people apologize for talking about work at dinner, and either quit or continue (I might take the apology or attitude too personally). But it seems to be kind of a thing to feel people out and see if talking about work will be okay. I’m very interested in such details.

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