Truthful Tuesday — Asking for Help

Melanie, of Sparks from a Combustible Mind, is filling in for Frank, aka PCGuy, who is taking a temporary hiatus from his Truthful Tuesday prompt. This week Melanie wants to know…

Should people be honest and just say no when asked to do something they either don’t want to do or are uncomfortable about doing?

On the surface, I would say that everyone should be honest, but I would also say that depends upon how close the person who is doing the asking is with the person who is being asked. If the person asking is a close friend or family member, then I think the person being asked should offer, if they are able, to help out, even though it might not be something that they might want to do — and probably wouldn’t do — for someone they’re not related to or close with. And, of course, that what they’re being asked to do is moral, ethical, and legal. But if they do commit to whatever they’ve agreed to do, they should follow through, regardless.

Why aren’t more people apt to tell the truth and save everyone involved a lot of time and aggravation?

That’s a good question. I think most people like to be thought of as being willing to accommodate a friend or family member in need, and may initially agree to do so, and then later regret having done so. But given the negative consequences of reneging at the last minute, if they had any doubts or second thoughts when the request for help was made, they should have been honest.

How comfortable are you with asking for help when the favor is something that will take a lot more time and work (and money with the gas price situation right now) than your relationship with the other party might warrant?

I try to be self-sufficient and am not the type who will ask for help under those conditions. Doing so will possibly end up in resentment — either on the part of the asker or the asked — and could tarnish, if not destroy, whatever the relationship was going forward. It’s sort of like the expression, “Never a borrower nor a lender be.” So if possible, I will try to find another way.

Of course, if we’re talking about my wife or kids, and there were no other options, I’d ask and I am sure that they would come to my assistance, just as I would for them if I were being asked.


I’m sorry, Melanie, that you’re having to deal with this situation and I hope that you can figure out a way to make it work today or to reschedule the surgery for when the necessary logistics can be worked out.

6 thoughts on “Truthful Tuesday — Asking for Help

  1. Carol anne March 29, 2022 / 8:24 am

    Asking for help can be hard, I feel it is important to be able to if you need to. X

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  2. Sadje March 29, 2022 / 9:56 am

    I feel very bad about people canceling at the last moment.

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  3. Nope, Not Pam March 29, 2022 / 12:09 pm

    I think people don’t want to say no because they’re concerned as to how they will be perceived. I’ll admit diabetes and arthritis are handy excuses if this worries me, but more often than not I just say no and explain why. My husband is the one who has the issue most times

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  4. Marleen March 29, 2022 / 2:59 pm

    I was going to answer with a couple reasons about extenuating circumstances discoverable necessitating not following through (such as discovering a crime is being or going to be committed or that a person is going to harm themselves in some way… such as by mailing their entire monthly income to a political campaign) upon showing up if carryied through. But that was in the total abstract. Now that I know Melanie is asking: my answer is that if I had eye surgery scheduled and my ride cancelled, I would ask a neighbor provided I don’t think that person is shady or mean.

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