Song Lyric Sunday — Til the Fear Subsides

For this week’s Song Lyric Sunday theme, Jim Adams has given us the themes of danger, fear, horror, nightmare, and terror. My first inclination was to go with Michael Jackson’s mega hit, “Thriller.” But then I decided to go with a lighter touch and something more melancholy rather than scary, so I chose Dan Hill’s song, “Sometimes When We Touch.” This may not seem like an obvious choice, but I remembered the line in the song that goes, “I want to hold you til the fear in me subsides,” and figured that qualifies it for this week’s “fear” theme. And I also figured a lot of others might go with “Thriller,” but I’d be the only one to come up with this Dan Hill song.

“Sometimes When We Touch” was written by Canadian pop rock artist Dan Hill (lyrics) and songwriting legend Barry Mann (music) for the album Longer Fuse. It was first released as a single by Hill in 1977 and was his biggest hit, peaking at number 3 on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 and number 10 on the Adult Contemporary chart.

Hill said that he was 19 when inspired to write this song about a 22 year old woman that he was desperately in love with. “I just thought everybody was naturally monogamous. My parents had always stayed together. Well, this woman didn’t want anything to do with monogamy. She wanted to get close to me, so to speak, but she wanted to be close with a lot of other guys at the same time, and I found this to be terribly distressful. She also liked to tell me about how all the other guys were so much more rich than I was, older, and more established. So I felt very inadequate.”

Hill thought the only thing that he could do to make her think of him as more than just her occasional fling was to write a song that would blow her away. He figured that all these guys might have more money, be older, and more sophisticated, but they couldn’t write and sing songs like he could. His goal was to write the most powerful song ever written that was going to so impress her that she would reconsider him and take him as her only lover. He called this girl and played her the song over the phone, expecting her to swoon. It didn’t work and he was devastated.

Well, he may not have gotten the girl, but at least he got a best-selling record for his efforts.

Here are the lyrics to the song.

You ask me if I love you
And I choke on my reply
I’d rather hurt you honestly
Than mislead you with a lie

And who am I to judge you
On what you say or do
I’m only just beginning
To see the real you

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty’s too much
And I have to close my eyes
And hide
I want to hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I want to hold you til the fear in me subsides

Romance and all its strategy
Leaves me battling with my pride
But through the insecurity
Some tenderness survives
I’m just another writer
Still trapped within my truth
A hesitant prize-fighter
Still trapped within my youth

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty’s too much
And I have to close my eyes
And hide
I want to hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I want to hold you til the fear in me subsides

At times I’d like to break you
And drive you to your knees
At times I’d like to break through
And hold you endlessly
At times I understand you
And I know how hard you try
I’ve watched while love commands you
And I’ve watched love pass you by
At times I think we’re drifters
Still searching for a friend
A brother or a sister
But then the passion flares again

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty’s too much
And I have to close my eyes
And hide
I want to hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I want to hold you til the fear in me subsides

19 thoughts on “Song Lyric Sunday — Til the Fear Subsides

  1. Nope, Not Pam August 15, 2021 / 4:12 am

    The record probably gave more satisfaction in the long run 🙂

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  2. newepicauthor August 15, 2021 / 7:07 am

    He should have wrote a follow up song called the Bitch. I always thought this love song was sappy, but I actually enjoyed listening to it today Fandango and I think that had a lot to do with your wonderful write up.

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  3. Maggie August 15, 2021 / 7:30 am

    I remember this song well. I am sure he was better off without the girl. Great choice, Fandango. Loved the backstory.

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  4. Marleen August 15, 2021 / 3:20 pm

    Thanks for the background! And I like the more subtle approach to including the word/theme.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Marleen August 15, 2021 / 3:30 pm

    The Persuaders – Thin Line between Love & Hate – Video (High Quality)

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    • Marleen August 15, 2021 / 3:46 pm

      Here is how I first heard this song (Annie Lennox music video embedded below):

      It’s a thin line between love and hate
      It’s a thin line between love and hate

      It’s 5 o’clock in the morning
      And you just getting in
      A knock upon the door
      A voice sweet and low says
      “Who is it?”
      She opens up the door
      And she lets you in
      And never once does she say
      “Where have you been?”

      She says “Hold it
      Are you hungry?
      Did you eat yet?
      Let me hang up your coat now.”

      And all the time she’s smiling
      Never raises her voice
      It’s 5 o’clock in the morning
      And you don’t give it a second thought.

      It’s a thin line between love and hate
      It’s a thin line between love and hate

      The sweetest woman in the world
      Can be the meanest woman in the world
      If you make her be that way
      She might be holdin’ something in
      That’s really gonna hurt you
      One of these fine days

      There you are in a hospital
      Bandaged from foot to head
      In a state of shock
      That much from being dead
      You didn’t think your woman
      Could do something like that to you
      Didn’t think she got the nerve
      Accidents speak louder than words
      Louder than words
      Louder than words
      Louder than words

      C’mon
      C’mon baby baby
      You don’t give a damn about me
      C’mon baby baby
      You don’t really care about me

      C’mon baby baby
      You dont give a damn about me
      C’mon baby baby
      You dont really care about me

      C’mon baby baby
      You dont give a damn about me
      C’mon baby baby
      You dont really care about me

      Hear what I say
      Hear what I say

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  6. aisasami August 21, 2021 / 11:08 pm

    I remember hearing this song on those Time-Life music collection commercials of the late 90s. It is such a beautiful song!

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