Fandango’s Provocative Question #123


Welcome once again to Fandango’s Provocative Question. Each week I will pose what I think is a provocative question for your consideration.

By provocative, I don’t mean a question that will cause annoyance or anger. Nor do I mean a question intended to arouse sexual desire or interest.

What I do mean is a question that is likely to get you to think, to be creative, and to provoke a response. Hopefully a positive response.

There are two old sayings that have always intrigued me. The first is “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” This expression means that you feel more affection for those you love when parted from them. You realize how much you love that person, and the desire to see them often increases when separated.

The other old saying is “Familiarity breeds contempt.” This expression means that the more you are exposed to someone, the more bored you become, the less appreciation you have for that person, and the more you find fault with that person.

So my provocative question this week is about absence versus familiarity and how they affect relationships.

Do you think that these two sayings are two sides of the same coin and that “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is just a nice way of saying that “Familiarity breeds contempt”? Or do you believe that these two expressions have polar opposite meanings?

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16 thoughts on “Fandango’s Provocative Question #123

  1. JT Twissel June 23, 2021 / 12:00 pm

    Oh my, I don’t understand either saying enough to write on it but I’ll check out other folk’s thoughts.


  2. cagedunn June 23, 2021 / 1:49 pm

    polar opposites – or therapy tools!
    familiarity breeds contempt means one party is sick to death of the faults, minor and major, of the other party.
    absence not only makes the heart grow fonder, it reminds each of what the other does, and how much it is appreciated.
    One side of the coin is not the same as the other, but both must be there for the coin to be genuine.
    In my opinion, anway.

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    • Fandango June 23, 2021 / 10:53 pm

      An interesting and insightful take on this week’s provocative question. I don’t think anyone else who responded has expressed your perspective on these two old sayings. Well done.


  3. Marleen June 25, 2021 / 2:29 am

    I don’t think they have to be two sides of the same coin. They can apply to different people. But then that also means they’re not always true. It might be so that a particular person makes your heart grow fonder when they’re gone, but that person doesn’t breed contempt when they’re with you. And the other way around… someone may cause contempt when they’re around and not lead your heart to fondness when there not. They’re just sayings. I was watching a show called “Home” yesterday, and some guy said something to another guy such as “Can’t be too prepared.” Well, it’s not so that no one can ever be too prepared or too obsessive in getting prepared. But it was a helpful thing to say in the moment.


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