Sadje asks us today if we are good listeners. When I was a kid, I was a terrible listener. I really didn’t care that much about what other people were saying. All that was important to me was what I had to say.
But when I joined my high school debate team, my coach called me aside and told me that if I wanted to be successful on the debate team — and in life — I should learn to listen for understanding, not for rebuttal.
I took his advice to heart and it served me well, both on the debate team and throughout my life.
But now that I’m a septuagenarian, I don’t really care that much about what other people are saying. All that is important to me is what I have to say.