Love Is In the Air

Everyone seems to be writing about love this month. I guess, because Valentine’s Day falls right in the middle of the month, and Valentine’s Day is the holiday of romance — or at least what the sellers of cards, flowers, candy, and jewelry would like you to think — a number of bloggers are writing about or expressing interests in our thoughts of love.

Rory, A Guy Called Bloke, is no exception, and he has posed six “love” questions for us to consider. So consider them I shall.

However, before I do, let me offer this caveat. Each of Rory’s questions ask “what do you think?” or “what are your views?” My views on love are that it’s highly personal and, when it comes to others, my views or what I think doesn’t matter. When it comes to love, my philosophy, as in most other things in life, is “Whatever floats your boat.”

That said…

1. Do you think that ‘background checks’ should be more commonplace between couples who are dating and or those looking to marry or live with each other?

Background checks? Seriously? How about having potential lovers give you their resumes? Sheesh. Well, I was raised in an era before you could key someone’s name into Facebook or Instagram or Twitter and get the lowdown on them before asking them out (or accepting an offer) for a date. And, personally, while I’m no longer playing the dating game, I think the thrill and mystery of learning about someone new as you get to know them beats the hell out of scrutinizing their social media sites.

2. Do you think love alone is enough to see people through everything?

Not by a long shot. It helps, but there are more practical and pragmatic considerations at play in life than just love.

3. What are your views on people getting married/living together too young – are you in total favor of that or not?

What is “too young?” I guess I’d say that if you’re old enough to vote and to drink alcohol, you’re old enough to live together if you choose to do so. Marriage, which in my opinion is optional, can wait until you’re older and more mature.

4. What do you think about people not getting to know their partners well enough – is it something that should be looked at more closely while you live apart or something that can be worked on when you are under the same roof together?

I think that it’s up to the couple involved, but I personally believe it’s important to live together under the same roof for at least a year, maybe two, before getting married.

5. What are your views on couples who are teenage sweethearts and simply wish to get married and yet they have never sampled anything else of life, they have never had other partners and the list goes on … but they are willing to sacrifice their life for living with one person only believing they are the right person for them?

First of all, I am not sure I’d say that teenage sweethearts who get married without having sampled anything else of life or having had other partners are “sacrificing their lives.” I know it wouldn’t have worked for me, but I didn’t meet my wife until I was 30 and we lived together for two years before we got married. Bottom line, I think it all depends on the individuals involved.

6. Finally, which is the best love? The one we think is right, the love that finds you by chance, or the love we source out with intention?

The “best love” is the one that is right for you when you are ready to give and receive it, regardless of how it comes about. In other words, the best love is the one that comes along at the right time.

9 thoughts on “Love Is In the Air

  1. Meowscha February 10, 2021 / 2:30 pm

    I don’t think that people should undergo background checks or have to provide resumes. However, I will certainly google their names…you never know what could come up. I discovered that a guy I had met had been to jail for hitting his wife. Enough said. I was done with him.

    I do not believe that love is enough. There are so many more faucets to a relationship. I loved my husband but he was a lazy, unmotivated person. I could only make so much effort to keep us together before I had enough.

    OMG I agree that people should live together before marriage. Although I respect traditions, it just makes more sense to learn about the person before committing fully.

    Finally, the best love is the one that makes you happy right where you are. Marriage doesn’t need to be a part of this. Enjoy who you have at this very moment.

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  2. Marilyn Armstrong February 10, 2021 / 7:19 pm

    I realize I’ve gotten old when I no longer care how people feel about falling in love, living together, or managing their weddings as long as I’m not paying for it. I find myself really uninterested in the emotional issues of the young. They don’t care what we think until whatever mistakes they are going to make have been made and then they suddenly wish they’d asked a few questions. I’m sure I was equally bad, possibly worse when I was young. But my patience seems to have worn thin since my last birthday. Or maybe it was the quarantine which followed.

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    • Fandango February 10, 2021 / 9:46 pm

      I feel that how other people live their lives is their business, not mine, as long as they’re not harming themselves or others… or infringing upon my rights.


  3. jilldennison February 10, 2021 / 9:16 pm

    Good responses, Fandango! Live and let live … not my business what anybody else does as long as they aren’t committing a crime or causing intentional harm.

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  4. leigha66 February 14, 2021 / 5:43 pm

    Background checks? I know they are available on the internet, but really for a potential date? Some things need to be discovered through conversations.

    Liked by 1 person

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