Rory, A Guy Called Bloke, wants to know if we think common courtesy is a thing of the past.

To that end, he’s asked us these questions….

What are your top 5 bugbears?

To be honest, I’d never heard of the word “bugbear” before reading it in Rory’s post. I Googled it and learned that a bugbear is something, real or imaginary, that causes needless fright or fear. The image at the top of this post is supposed to be a bugbear. Yeah, it’s pretty ferocious looking.

Well, I can’t think of anyone or anything that causes me needless fright or fear. But then I thought about the word “bugaboo.” But when I Goggled that word, it’s defined as an object of fear or alarm. Hmm. I can’t really think of anything that is the object of fear of alarm for me, either.

So I’m going to list the top five things that cause a bug up my butt, or a “bugabutt.

  1. Technology that doesn’t work as it’s supposed to
  2. People who butt in lines
  3. People who talk but don’t listen
  4. People who refuse to wear face masks in the middle of an out-of-control pandemic
  5. People who refuse to accept that Biden beat Trump in the presidential election

Do you believe that 1] common courtesy is dead and 2] that political correctness and equality may have a stake in the problem itself? Or do you believe it is purely and simply a lack of concern for people?

For starters, I don’t see any direct or definitive relationship between common courtesy and political correctness. Common courtesy is showing respect for others. It’s politeness that people can usually be expected to show. Political correctness is about language. It’s conforming to a belief that language and practices which could offend another’s sensibilities should be discouraged.

Thus, common courtesy and political correctness are neither inextricably intertwined nor mutually exclusive. So when it comes to common courtesy, to me it comes down to respect and politeness. And, despite the lack of courtesy shown by some, I think most people are aware of and practice common courtesy.

Finally, should we all just join the β€˜F##k You Squad!’ and become less respectful to people?

Absolutely not. I think we’d all be better off following what some call “The Golden Rule.” Treat others the way you would like others to treat you.

9 thoughts on “Bugbears

  1. Marleen December 11, 2020 / 9:48 am

    I concur with your 😺 bugabutt list.

    As for a bugbear, I’ll go with
    the bugaloo boys.

    I’m staying out of the politically-correct waters but will say there’s no good reason to say fuck it all toward others.

    On second thought, political correctness and equality has reminded me of something. My dad never cussed. But my mom’s dad did, mildly; no β€œfuck” that I ever heard. However, my grandfather was around other men who cussed and cursed in a more pronounced manner. My dad has told a story about being with my grandfather in some situation where there were other men. And, at some point, there were women or a woman. My grandfather told the other men to stop talking that way when the woman/women were around. I appreciate that story. Quite a bit, actually. However, if for women to have something like equality (such as being able to own and inherit and get credit and be heard and so on) we have to put up with (or join in) some cussing… okay. Decent trade.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Marleen December 11, 2020 / 10:53 am

      I find that quite curious.

      Liked by 1 person

    • Fandango December 11, 2020 / 11:56 am

      How is Moscoso a take on Bugbear?


  2. Carol anne December 15, 2020 / 6:59 pm

    That golden rule is something I try to follow! I just hope others will do it too!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. leigha66 December 19, 2020 / 8:11 pm

    Does that mean a bugbear is like the boogeyman? Good answers Fandango.

    Liked by 1 person

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