50 Word Thursday —Time to Move On

FD4EE5BE-A8E0-4EEE-9669-6E641E94A181He had just violated a fairly elemental rule; he had snitched, which was the most difficult thing he’d done in his young life. He told his parents about how he had been sexually abused by one of the priests. 

The Church arranged to transfer that priest to a different parish.

(50 words)

Written for Deb Whittam’s 50 Word Thursday prompt.

Word Salad

C2A11C38-F5FD-4704-9824-9CC6C01AF2FA“The sun simmered red as it slunk towards the jagged horizon,” Trevor said. He looked at his wife and asked, “What do you think?”

“Huh? Did you say something?” Samantha said.

“You never listen to me, do you?” Trevor responded. “I was reading to you the first line of the new poem I’m writing. You obviously have no respect for my craft.”

“Honestly, Trevor, I don’t have the energy to do this. But I do respect your writing efforts.”

“Yes, a grudging respect at best,” Trevor replied.

“Look, Trevor,” Samantha said, “you’re a kind, sensitive, humane man and I do love you, but I find your poetry to be indecipherable.”

“You don’t know anything, Samantha,” Trevor angrily said. “Poetry is the ultimate expression of creative artistry and my poetry is very digestible.”

“You’re right, Trevor,” Samantha said, “your poetry is about as digestible as a word salad.”

Written for these prompts:

  • Ragtag Daily Prompt, respect
  • Your Daily Word Prompt, humane
  • Word of the Day Challenge, grudging
  • Daily Addictions, ultimate
  • Fandango’s One Word Challenge, energy
  • Rachel Poli’s Time To Write Only Dialogue prompt (a post that is all dialogue)
  • Mindlovemisery’s Menagerie First Line Friday prompt (a post that starts with the line, “The sun simmered red as it slunk towards the jagged horizon”)

No offense meant to you poets out there.

Forgive and Forget Redux

My blogger friend, Marilyn Armstrong at Serendipity, wrote a post yesterday about forgiveness. Actually, it was about so much more than forgiveness. It was also about religion, God, abuse, domestic violence, shame, and pride. And, as she usually does, she wrote a well-crafted, provocative post that is worth reading.

Marilyn’s post reminded me of something I wrote back in June 2017 about the notion of “forgive and forget.” And since my blog was relatively new at the time, most of you probably did not read it. So I thought I’d repost my thoughts on forgiveness. It’s not nearly as good as Marilyn’s post, though.

Anyway, here you go.

forgive and forgetSomeone you know — maybe someone you love — has “done you wrong.” You’re upset, angry, and hurt. What do you do? Some of your closest friends and confidants might tell you that you’re better off without that person.

Others, though, may advise you to “forgive and forget.” I cringe when I hear someone offer that advice. It’s seriously cringeworthy nonsense.

You’ve been betrayed. A trust has been broken. Is it even possible to forgive and forget?

I don’t think so. Not both.

The unfortunate truth is that you can’t change the past. Once words have been spoken, they can’t be unspoken. Once deeds have been done, they can’t be undone. All you can do is live in the present and strive for a better future. While it may be difficult, frustrating, and even painful, it’s for your own benefit to be forgiving.

Everyone make mistakes. I know I have. I’m sure you have, too. I can say that with certainty because none of us is perfect. To err is human, right? And according to Alexander Pope, to forgive is “divine.” Yet even if you understand that intellectually, to forgive is also hard as hell.

And then there’s forgetting. Forgetting is not only pretty close to impossible without undergoing a frontal lobotomy, it’s probably not even a very wise thing to do.

How can you be expected to forget one of the most painful experiences of your life? Wouldn’t that be counterproductive? If you forget something that has caused you great pain, how can you learn from that experience? How can you grow?

You may want to forget, but you can’t. It’s really hard to not be resentful, to not dwell on the betrayal, to not replay in your mind what happened and re-experience all of the negative feelings it evoked. But if that is what you do, then you haven’t really forgotten, even though you may have convinced yourself that you have.

I’m not a psychologist and I don’t play one on TV. That said, my advice, for what it’s worth, is to accept the fact that you won’t ever be able to forget the pain and the hurt. But if you wish to salvage your relationship, you need to find a way to deal with it, and that means genuinely forgiving the person who hurt you.

As painful as it was, you really do need to let it go. And if you can’t do that, you need to walk away and not look back.

And that’s what is so hard about “forgive and forget.” That’s why I cringe whenever I hear that phrase. The former is hard to do; the latter is impossible to do. As Thomas Szasz noted, a wise person won’t try to do both.

And now I ask you to forgive me for writing such a cringeworthy post. Actually, just forget I even wrote and posted it.

Friday Fictioneers — Finally Finished


“Finally,” Larry said aloud. He had sequestered himself in his home office for three straight days, taking breaks only to sleep a few hours, to take bathroom breaks, and to eat. And to polish off nearly a bottle of bourbon.

Larry walked from his office into the kitchen where his wife was sitting and kissed her on the cheek. She pulled away, crinkled up her nose, and said, “You stink and you look like shit.”

“Wait until you see the mess I left for you on the coffee table in my office,” he said. “But I finally finished our taxes.”

(100 words)

Written for this week’s Friday Fictioneer prompt from Rochelle Wisoff-Fields. Photo credit: Yvette Prior.

FOWC with Fandango — Energy

FOWCWelcome to August 17, 2018 and to Fandango’s One-Word Challenge (aka, FOWC). It’s designed to fill the void after WordPress bailed on its daily one-word prompt.

I will be posting each day’s word just after midnight Pacific Time (US).

Today’s word is “energy.”

Write a post using that word. It can be prose, poetry, fiction, non-fiction. It can be any length. It can be just a picture or a drawing if you want. No holds barred, so to speak.

Once you are done, tag your post with #FOWC and create a pingback to this post if you are on WordPress. Or you can simply include a link to your post in the comments.

And be sure to read the posts of other bloggers who respond to this prompt. You will marvel at their creativity.